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The Question:

Hi, I have recently split from my girlfriend of 7 years, its been 3 weeks now but it feels like its been longer, I miss her terribly I think about her morning noon & night, Its a long story but basically we had problems I suffered with depression and left her for 5 months and lived with my parents again. When I came back to her things had changed she told me we had grown apart and didn’t love me said she still cared but not like that… We sort of got back together but I was constantly suspicious of her checking her face-book & e-mails etc, then it got to the point where she wouldn’t touch me or seem to care about how I felt this dragged on for about 3 months I said a few times I will leave then hoping she would try to stop me, she just said do whatever you want to do…So I left it broke my heart, she just rang me to ask if I was alright not to come back… Since then she has posted on her face-book Ive never felt so happy, never been this happy in years, wish I would have been single years ago, but lists on her profile interested in men looking for a relationship… I spoke to her again recently well saw her actually and she was real cold towards me said that she just wants to be friends that she cares about me but will never be in a relationship with me again… It just doesn’t matter what I do or say I cant stop thinking about her I miss her so much, Does anyone think that she will ever love me like I want again? I would like anyone’s opinions please especially from women. Thanks

My Response:

Dear Heart Broken;

It is hard to suffer from depression and people who don’t suffer from depression don’t understand those that do. Going to the key core, you moved out, and not just for a few days, for almost half a year, that’s a long time for your ex to evaluate your relationship and truly see how she felt about you. I know it hurts to see her happy and saying the things that she says, but the truth is that it is better to move on from someone who doesn’t love you the way you love them than to sit there hoping that one day they just might love you back. Seven Years is a long time, and there was something obviously wrong for it to have gone so astray after so long. I know it hurts because you still love her (it’s only been 3 weeks), and thinking about her day and night isn’t something that is just going to disappear in a day. You spent a long time with her and you loved her, you have history together and you probably thought you would spend the rest of your life together. It’s hard but the fact that she isn’t in love with you is reality. If she has told you that she cares for you I am sure it is because she was with you for so long and just because you aren’t in love with someone anymore doesn’t mean you stop loving or caring for them, but loving someone and being in love with someone are two different things. Try to be strong and get your life back on track, it isn’t going to be easy but you have to move on. It is better to move on now knowing that she isn’t in love with you then to keep up a relationship that is only a lie. You don’t want to spend another 7 years down the road with someone who isn’t happy, or spend it with someone who in the end is only going to end up leaving you. I am sure she has her reasons and I am sure that you are going to hurt for a long time, but I know this is a cliche saying “but time does heal all wounds”. Be strong, look at your relationship and really ask yourself if you were happy with the way things were? Or were you just comfortable? Be strong; you will find someone who will support you through the hard times and love you no matter what. If you still suffer from depression you have to really think about seeing someone or talking to someone, depression is not something easily removed.

xo
kristin nicole

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The Question:

I dated this guy for 8 months who is a family friend. Our parents made us meet each other. He used me to make his ex jealous and also treated me in a way so that I would dump him after his purpose of making his ex jealous gets fulfilled. I was very serious about him and was unaware of his intentions until the very end. I broke up with him 2 months ago, now I know we will bump into each other often as our parents are friends with each other and they didn’t know about whatever happened between me and him.
I so wanna tell him I hate him so much for whatever he did to me. How can I give him this message? To be honest I am still not over him, but I don’t want him to feel that I miss him or anything.
Now that I know I will see him often, how should I react ? Should I ignore him completely or should I behave as if nothing ever happened? Also how can I make him feel that I hate him more than anything in this world?…

My Response:

Dear Used;

It is a hard position to be in and unfortunately this is why parents shouldn’t get involved in the love life of their children. Have your parents asked about your break up? I would be honest with them, talk to your mom or your dad whoever you are closest too, it’s good to let your feelings out and they should know that their friends son is an a** so that they don’t try to make you hang out with him. If it makes you feel better tell him how you feel, but after that move on. If you have to see him I wouldn’t ignore him completely that will only show that you still care and you don’t want that. Don’t try to become best friends with him either, what he did to you was wrong, and the least he can do is apologize to you. So if you do have to see each other just casually say hello and go on your way, keep yourself busy when he’s around, or ask to go to a friends house. I am not sure how old you are, that really changes things if I knew your age, but all in all, I say it doesn’t hurt to get your feelings out by telling him how you feel and letting him know what he did was wrong. Then move on, I know it hurts and you still have feelings for him but you deserve someone a lot better than someone who is only going to use you. You did right by breaking up with him.

xo
kristin nicole

UPDATE:

Yes your age does change, you are 22 not a teenager which makes it easier for you to pick up and go, there is no reason that if your parents are hanging out with their friends that you have to be around, unless it is a dinner you are invited to. If that is the case like I said be polite and say hello as if nothing is bothering you but don’t try to strike up a conversation with him. He’s around your age too I am assuming which makes this 10 times worse, he isn’t a child and he knew what he was doing was wrong. Unfortunately some men don’t know when to grow up and see something good that is right in front of them. You are still young and even though it hurts right now, you deserve a lot better. You deserve someone who will appreciate you and love you for you, not someone who is trying to play childish games. If he’s over your house, make an excuse to go out, start hanging out with your friends again and go out dancing. Start having some fun and forget about him, trust me he isn’t worth your time.

Good luck, if you need more advice don’t hesitate to write me a comment or email me.

xo,
kristin nicole

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Traumatized?

Perhaps it is a strong word. Dreams… sometimes… Daydreams….randomly through out the day….Memories…All the time….Anxiety….with the memories….Sadness….Scared….Traumatized?

Living Life…

You have to continue living after an accident, or something bad that has happened to you, the hard part isn’t continuing to live the hard part is getting back into the same routine you have been so accustomed to without having the bad memories pop into your head every couple of minutes or hours or days. My experience wasn’t all that bad compared to a lot of people who have been in accidents. Most recently an employee was in a motorcycle accident, he broke one wrist, the other hand and his ankle. He has been like this for over a month and still confined to a wheelchair and lots and lots of physical therapy. That to me reminds me of how lucky I am, how I have no reason to truly complain about anything let alone my accident where I walked out of the car without a single scratch. Sure my neck and shoulders are still a bit sore, but that comes with the whiplash of the accident. I rather be sore with a few aches and pains then confined to a wheel chair and needing people to help you do stuff (like going to the restroom). I rather be me any day, and with all that and with knowing that what I said is 110% all true, I still can’t help but to fear, I still can’t help but to feel bad and scared. Every time I start picturing that morning, the rain, the car lights, the hit, it all just happened so fast.

Let it go….

Letting it go is easier said than done, and I know this. If I was giving advice I would say to confront your fear, pass by that area again and let it go. Accidents happen and this is a lesson to learn from, to be more careful, more aware of your surroundings, to not let fear conquer you and to be grateful that nothing happened to you. Sure you have to deal with the aftermath, but everything will be taken care of in time. Let it go and keep living. Knowing all this you think it would be easy for me. Knowing all this, you think I can just let it go, forget and move on. Each time I picture it I get a shiver down my spine, each time I think about it I get saddened that this had to happen. I’m still trying to figure out the “everything happens for a reason” … I still can’t drive in that same spot. Now I go a different way to work in the morning.

When….

When will it stop haunting me and when will I let it go? Only time can tell, I think I will be fine, I know I will be fine, it is just a scary thought that this could have been much worse. Makes you think about life and the things you want and what truly is important and unimportant. Makes you think and realize that things could always be so much worse and today I am just thankful to be able to write this, to sit here with only a little soreness around the neck and carry on with my life as if nothing happened….

xo,
kristin nicole

The Car Accident…

I got up like any other morning, thought about snoozing another 10 minutes and then finally just decided to get up and get ready for work. I got ready, made breakfast and stopped before leaving wondering and feeling like I was forgetting something. I headed towards the door, locked the door, went to the elevator and headed up to my car, I started going down the garage and headed outside and saw that it was raining. I turned my windshield wipers on and headed down the road to work. I was just driving, listening to music and thinking about life, when I look to the side and see the car coming towards me, I look up and it was too late to stop the car hit me on the driver side turning my car, popping my tire and spinning my world around. I got out of the car and everyone was fine, I was fine, they were fine but my car wasn’t fine. Material things come and go, or they get fixed; that wasn’t my concern at all, the only thing that really bothered was that I was the one who got the ticket and I don’t even know what happened. Now I have a ticket to pay, traffic school or court, missions in life that make you wonder why things really happen in life.

If you read my blog you know that I believe that everything happens for a reason, and I am one to admit that saying it is easier said than actually experiencing it. I have gone through things in life where I later turn around and realize why things do happen for a reason, this, this accident I’m still trying to figure out what the reason is?

My boyfriend took me to the hospital afterward just to make sure everything was okay, because my whole left side of my neck and shoulder where killing me. Everything checked out fine, I just had a spasm in my neck which will be sore for several days or weeks. They gave me a soft neck brace and a muscle relaxer. I’m now sitting her typing this with the neck brace on, I didn’t sleep all night from not wanting to make the wrong move and hurt my neck more and from the anxiety every time I thought about getting in a car or taking that same road the next time I go to work.

Moments….

When I was sitting in my car I didn’t notice it in the moment, but when I started trying to replay what happened, I all of a sudden got a vision of a moment in the car accident. I sat there and in one moment, one second in time I saw my grandparents, I saw my grandfather looking at me, and I saw my grandmother and I even saw Oz. I don’t know what it all means but I can’t stop thinking about it. When I think about the accident I get anxiety, I get nervous and feel bad about the entire thing. In life we go through things we don’t know the reasons for, this is one of those moments. It was almost as if my life flashed before my eyes, and although I walked out of that car accident with nothing but a few sores in my neck, I wonder if this is some type of sign. If everything happens for a reason, what is this reason?

In a split second you see things you didn’t even notice you saw, you later remember what you saw and have no clue why or what it means. In life things happen that we never truly know the meaning for, I always try to figure things out, I can’t help but stress, I can’t help but worry and I can’t help but wonder what the reasons are? I look back at past events, present and future and I wonder what the universe has in store for me. If this is now, if this is what I feel, then what can I do to make things better? This year has been a major roller coaster of emotions. I have had good things happen like finally finishing my Associates Degree, Moving into my new place with my boyfriend, having my health and family and friends, the bad somehow seem to take control, Loosing Oz and Precious was something so hard, thinking about it still makes me tear up. I recently also lost my cat Oreo (RIP Oreo – best sweetest outside cat ever), school has been hard and lots of money on tutors and life.

When life gets you down try to think of the positive. That’s what I try to do. It’s hard, I want to sometimes curl up in bed and just cry, or lay in a bubble bath, hold my breath under the water and just let it out. We sometimes have to let the pain out, the tears and the frustration roll out like a thunder storm and then I stop and I try to evaluate my life, I try to figure out what I can do to make things better. Think positive and hope that things turn around. Life is too short to always feel down, but sometimes we can’t help but to feel the way we feel. We don’t always expect the things in life to turn our world up side down. This year has been an emotional roller coaster like I said, but I have faith that things in life will get better. A little faith comes a long way…. Do you have faith?

xo,
kristin nicole
~Random Thoughts~

In times of stress I try to sit back, take a hot bubble bath and think about what I need to do to get back on track. Or sometimes I try to think of absolutely nothing at all.

Juggling your life…

It isn’t easy. Life gives you ups and downs and sometimes we go sideways, but somehow with all the worries and all the stress we figure it out and we come up on top. For me I struggle with a full time job, school, and home. I work every week from 7-4pm and then in between during lunch and when I get home I have school work, and just recently I moved into my new place. So as you can imagine after a few years of absolute spoilness (okay that might not be a word, but anyhow…) I now have to do everything myself. I have to cook dinner, do laundry and cook. Yes I have a boyfriend and he’s been helping me do dishes and clean up but even with some help it’s a bit tough. Getting into the routine of things is hard. If I didn’t have school it might be a little easier, but I’m pushing myself everyday to keep going.

For some it’s easier….

For me, it’s hard… School as always been a struggle for me and each day, each class gets harder with more work. If you aren’t born into a family that can afford your education you have to juggle a full time job and school. You have to take student loans and books to survive. You have to take care of yourself, your job and your education, and sometimes I just feel like calling it quits! Then when my head stops stressing and I have time to actually think, I stop myself and I think about all the hard work I’ve already put into it, and I keep on going, and I keep on pushing through. No one ever told me life would be so hard, but then again no one ever told me it would be easy either.

xo,
kristin nicole
~Random Thoughts~

The Question:

Dear kristin nicole;

I have read all your blogs and I have decided to write you my concerns hoping to find help by answering all my questions,
but before that I need to narrate what happened.

My husband and I were together for 13yrs and married for 4yrs now we have a 3.5 yrs old daughter,he was my first love.
He is working for a luxury cruise line and away for 10 months.

It came to my attention recently that he’s been involved with a 21yrs old passenger and just last year he went off to London. He said that he will try to find a job there, but all along he was with her. He stayed in her house, and when he came back he was a bit cold. He doesn’t want sex, he told me that he’s no longer happy; as a wife I tried to fix whatever it is that was bothering him cause I thought this was just about money. He is depressed and I did whatever it takes for him to feel that he is not alone. On March 2010 he went back on board I thought we were ok then.
After he flew for work he will only place a call once a month and I never hear him say I love you…(Kristin I know you will tell me that he doesn’t love me anymore.)

In short my husband is having an affair and he’s been cheating on me for 4 long years, I read all of this from his emails that I don’t know about.. I confronted him and ask him all the questions that I am entitled to know; also I told him that I will report this to his manning agency here in the Philippines. He answered everything, and explained that he used the girl for him to have a job in London. He only did it for us to have a good life and to find a stable job but all he’s emails doesn’t look like he’s using the girl. He is begging me to accept him again not for the sake of our daughter but for the sake of our relationship, he also told me that he does not love the other women.

My question is:

1. Is he trying to fix this situation because he’s just afraid he might be terminated?
2. Does he really love me or he is already involved (emotionally) with this girl cause I’m thinking that aside from he opened up to me that he is no longer happy he doesn’t call us more often and no I love yous than the usual.
3. I am thinking of leaving him for him to learn his lesson and prove to him something but he is begging me not to do it; my worries is what if he is just doing all these sorry stuffs but in the long run he will only leave us.
4. What do you think the best thing to do cause my mind is all mixed up…

Kristin I know you can help me please do help me…
Looking forward for your reply.

~ms. blue

My Response:

Dear ms. blue;

Lets start off with that you have been married for four years, and he’s been cheating on you for FOUR years! He’s been unfaithful to you and your family from the moment you got married? Is this the type of person you want to truly spend the rest of your life with? I understand that some couples have to sacrifice time away from each other and I do not know the situation you are in at home financially, but being away for 10 months is way too long, when you have a wife and a child at home. You already said to me: “(Kristin I know you will tell me that he doesn’t love me anymore.)” I can’t say that he doesn’t love you, I am sure that a part of him does, because that is why he stayed with you, and that is why you have a child together, but loving someone and being in love with someone are two different things. Your husband has cheated on you and it doesn’t just affect you, it affects your daughter, your family.

Your husband only wanted to make it work when you threatened to tell his manning agency (I am assuming they do not tolerate infidelity). Do you realize that it wasn’t until you threatened him to tell his agency about the affair did he then only asked you not to leave him? Of course he is going to tell you things like, he doesn’t love this other women, and that he was only with her to get a job. “He did it for you”. REALLY?!? So is it okay for you to sleep with another man to get a better job? But it’s okay if you did it for him, right? NO IT’S NOT OKAY!!! That is a lame excuse and you should not fall for it. You need to have respect for yourself, love yourself, and realize that even though it hurts, even though you love him, that you deserve better than this!

To answer your questions directly:

1. Is he trying to fix this situation because he’s just afraid he might be terminated? I think you already know this answer, if not you wouldn’t be asking it. Like I already said, he didn’t start asking you to come back to him, or begging for you not to leave him until you threatened to tell his agency. What does this tell you?

2. Does he really love me or he is already involved (emotionally) with this girl cause I’m thinking that aside from he opened up to me that he is no longer happy he doesn’t call us more often and no I love yous than the usual? If the girl he was cheating on you with is 21 and he’s been cheating on you with her for 4 years, are you telling me that she was only 17 when he started sleeping with her? Okay 1. That is wrong on all levels. 2. If it is the same girl for 4 years then I think it may be clear to say that yes he is emotionally involved. 3. A 21 year old was supposed to get him a job in LONDON???? How much power does this girl have over there? 4. Are you sure this is the only girl he’s had an affair with?
He doesn’t call you and he doesn’t tell you I love you, does this sound like a man who really wants to save his marriage?

3. I am thinking of leaving him for him to learn his lesson and prove to him something but he is begging me not to do it; my worries is what if he is just doing all these sorry stuffs but in the long run he will only leave us? Do not leave him for the reasons you say. You leaving him is not going to teach him any kind of lesson he already doesn’t know. You can not leave him expecting him to learn some kind of lesson and come running back to you. You should leave him because he was unfaithful, you should leave him because you deserve someone to love you for you and be faithful to not only you but your daughter. Think about your daughter, is he?

4. What do you think the best thing to do cause my mind is all mixed up??? The best thing for you to do is really think about what you are feeling, read what you wrote to me, and truly find it inside you to get up and be strong.

No one deserves to be cheated on, no one deserves to feel the way you are feeling right now. Your husband has cheated on you, he’s betrayed your trust and your love. He has only asked for you not to leave him once you threatened to tell his agency, and he barely calls you or tells you that he loves you. He’s not only NOT calling you, he’s not calling to speak to his daughter that he barely sees. Is this a marriage? Is this a family? Have respect for yourself and love yourself. You can only be strong once you realize that you deserve a real man! A man who will work for his family but not cheat on his family.

xo,
kristin nicole

~Remember to always respect yourself and love yourself, this is the only way one can see the truth in what we don’t want to see.~

Moving In & Moving on up…

Okay so I don’t drive a fancy car and my apartment isn’t a Penthouse suite, but I have to say my little apartment is super chic and cute. I have to admit I’ve moved out before but this moving process seemed like a lot of work.

We started moving Friday 08/06/10. My boyfriend and brother took the stuff from his house and loaded up the U-Haul truck… there wasn’t much but clothes and a few boxes/bags and the TV, so off they went from South Miami, to Pembroke Pines. There my dad helped them move the rest of the stuff into the U-Haul truck; my bed, two night stands, TV Stand and a few boxes and clothes etc. I brought them lunch and they were able to go to the building earlier to move in, so off they go to Downtown Miami…..

Downtown… When you’re alone
And life is making you lonely,
You can always go downtown

Up and down they go, moving furniture and boxes…. Meanwhile, I had errands to run, I worked that day at 6:30 in the morning, then I left work at 12pm to head to the Doral to drop off some paperwork, then up to Pembroke Pines where I took the guys food. We ate, they went to downtown and I went to Target and Sedanos to buy a few things I knew we would need to munch on and drink while we were there until I went Grocery shopping Saturday morning. I got the apartment and the guys were thirsty so they each grabbed a bottle water (Good thing I bought some bottle water), they finished unloading and headed to drop the U-Haul Truck back to it’s destination. Meanwhile, I started cleaning up and unpacking. It didn’t look like we had much to unpack, and our place isn’t that big, but it took Friday until 9pm, Saturday after grocery shopping and unloading and cleaning and finishing up until 10pm and Sunday, well Sunday we went up to Ikea in Ft. Lauderdale and bought ourselves a couch

We are now sitting in our apartment with a couch, a bed and a desk in our den. I can truly say that I am finally just about settled in…we have a few more things we need to get (like kitchen supplies) but all in all everything is looking up. Moving in and moving on up…

Downtown…..

xo
kristin nicole

Special Thanks to everyone who helped us move in:

My boyfriend: Thank you for always calming me down when things seem to get rough, and always being there for me. Thank you for all the hard work you put in with the move.

My brother: Thank you for helping us move and even taking the day off. You are the best brother a sister can possibly ask for.

My sister in-law: Thank you for always being there for me, if it wasn’t for you, we might not even be in this place…

My Mom: I couldn’t ask for a better mother, best friend who is always by my side no matter what. Thank you for helping me clean and get my place settled in, you don’t know how much you helped me.

My Dad: Thank you for helping us move and always being there for us.

My In-Laws: Thank you, for always supporting us, helping supply us with things for the apartment and for just being you.

My Sister: Thank you for coming over and helping me and thank you for always making us laugh.

I love you all so much! THANK YOU!

The Question:

She lives an hour away. She never invites me to her place or will hang out with me near her home or where she works. Refuses to see me during the work week. She never calls and maybe texts me once or twice a week. The only time I see her is when she drives down to my place or we meet in a hotel. She has guy friends. She admits to sleeping with one before we dated. She says I should trust her what are your thoughts?

My Response:

Dear Trustworthy;

If you are asking all these questions, then the answer is right in front of you. You obviously don’t trust her, and I don’t blame you. If you are dating and sleeping together and she hasn’t taken you home, then I would wonder if perhaps she is married or living with a boyfriend. Maybe she has a kid and she doesn’t want you to meet him or her. Either way, there is definitely something there. You hardly talk, she only texts you once or twice a week and you don’t see her during the week. If you do see her, you are meeting in hotels, and I’m pretty sure you aren’t doing much talking there. If you want to just stay with her for the few romps in the sheet once a week, then go for it, but if you want a relationship with this women I would advise asking her straight out all the questions you are asking. Be honest and if you really want a relationship with this women then you need to be up front with her about what you are feeling. Good luck.

xo,
kristin nicole

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The Question:

My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now and we live about an hour apart, so we don’t get to see each other that much. Maybe once or twice a week ( half a day) some weeks we don’t even see each other. He was overseas for Christmas and I didn’t see him for a month. I’m not the kind of person to cling to him or be obsessed and stuff but recently its been bugging me. The fact that he isn’t here when I need him really gets to me . I don’t think we spend enough time with each other although he says he tries his best. I don’t go out with my guy and girl friends anymore because it upsets him if I go alone. He has uni all the time and stuff and so do I but i try to make time for him and he does not seem to make time for me. We were suppose to go out with friends on Friday but he said he has a group meeting. We changed it to Saturday and he says he promised his friend they would hang out! Should I just break up with him??

My Response:

Dear Long Distance;

It’s a hard decision and I can see that you really care for him and perhaps even love him, but long distance relationships whether it be across the country or just an hour away is hard. You need a boyfriend that is there for you, you can’t really have a true relationship if you aren’t able to spend time together and get to know each other in person. No one can make the decision for you to break up with him or not, that is something that only you can do. The fact that you are asking the question shows that it is on your mind. Evaluate your relationship, you said:

** You live an hour away, but you only see each other 1 to 2 times a week and only for half a day. (An hour isn’t a short drive, but it also isn’t that far), if he really wants to see you he’ll make the effort to come down on the weekends. I’m not sure how his schedule is, so maybe he can’t come down on the weekends, and if this is the case this is something that is hard to change.

** You don’t go out with your friends because he does not like you going out alone. (Okay, if you aren’t hanging out with him because he wants to hang out with his guy friends, explain to me why it’s okay for him but not for you)?

Long distance is hard, and if one of you is making the effort and the other person isn’t, then there is a decision you definitely have to make. I know it’s hard but if you love him, and he really wants to make it work, you guys will figure it out. If you feel it isn’t going to work, then it’s best to go your separate ways now and find someone closer that you can have a good relationship with. Someone you can see more often and go on dates with. Take maybe a few days off from each other and see how you feel then. Don’t keep waiting though, time doesn’t stop for love….
Good luck.

xo,
kristin nicole

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The Question:

I have had a recent breakup with my long-term girl friend because she has lost the love she once had for me and does not want to be with me anymore. I have never cheated on her or hurt her. I have always stood up for her and been by her side fighting through thick and thin, She has now left me even though i begged her to not leave me as I love her a lot. What can I do to win her back someday? I am prepared to wait for her whenever she decides to return to me. Also I am a loner with little or no friends. Is it possible that this girl will see my true love for her someday?

My Response:

Dear Loner;

I know this is hard… to lose someone you love, to have always been there for them and wonder why they just one day decided to not love you anymore. Unfortunately you can wait days, months or maybe even years, but the fact remains that she had to make a decision and if she feels that she doesn’t love you, then it was best that she told you then to leave you lingering around hoping to one day grow in a relationship that isn’t even there. We all choose things in life, you say that you are a loner with little or no friends. Start opening up, you need get confidence and realize that you are worth it, and that you can also have friends. Start hanging out with the little friends you do have, and open up to them. Start talking to other girls and you may get turned down a few times, but if you have the confidence you will meet someone who will love you for you. I know it’s hard now, but you have to move forward, and one day you will see that her breaking up with you is better than her lying to you about loving you. Love is hard, but get the courage to get back out there, stop being a loner and start hanging out with friends, you don’t know what you are missing out on until you get out there.

xo,
kristin nicole

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