SoapNights / Kristin Nicole

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I just found out that my boyfriend has been masturbating to porn. I never thought he would, and he always promised me he didn’t.

I am very, very hurt. I feel like I’m not good enough. I’m thinking about leaving him. I just don’t think I can handle knowing this, as pathetic as it may sound.

But I’m thinking about trying to work it out. But I don’t know how? Please, what should I do?

My response:

Dear can’t handle the porn;

Most men like to watch porn and they tell their girlfriends they don’t because they don’t think they will approve or that the girlfriend won’t like it. The truth is, don’t take it personally, I know it’s hard not to, when I first experienced this I was also hurt, you feel like you aren’t good enough, why does he have to see other girls having sex if I’m right here in front of him? It really has nothing to do with you and it isn’t because you did something wrong, it’s just a man thing, they get off by watching porn, they just simply like it. I know it’s a simple answer but men really are just that simple, we just over analyze things way too much. If you really love him, this isn’t a reason to break up with him, unless of course he’s addicted to porn which some people are. If it’s just once in a while, try joining him, watch some porn with your boyfriend, you might surprise yourself and even like it a little. If what’s really bothering you is that he lied about watching porn, sit down with your boyfriend and tell him just that, tell him it bothers you and try to work things out.

Good luck. If you need any more advice you can always email me at soapnights@gmail.com

xo,
kristin nicole