SoapNights / Kristin Nicole

Miami Drivers:

Miami Drivers are simply; well what’s a nice word to say…. A**HOLES. Yup there really is no nice word. Every day I watch my surroundings, cars beside me, next to me in the other lanes and there is always that one person who has to be rude, cut you off, beep a horn, take a red light, stay on your ass. I don’t understand what the big rush in life is all about? Is the world going to end in the 2 minutes you might be late? Will something horrific happen if you don’t take that yellow light and actually stop and wait for it to turn green again? Tell me please so that I can understand why people are in such a hurry in Miami. Maybe it’s not just Miami, I lived in Texas and even though I didn’t drive at the time I remember my mom saying it was the most courteous drivers she’s ever seen. I lived in San Diego and even driven in L.A. & Okay L.A Drivers aren’t really that nice and it’s a little crazy, but I still think Miami is one of the worst places to drive in.

Lets start off with just this morning; I’m coming out of my garage I go to make a left to get to the light to get out of my complex when this car literally has changed lanes to not stay behind me in the red and absolutely took it. I guess at 6:30 in the morning he has to get to work in a hurry. It didn’t stop there…Oh no…then I’m sitting waiting for the red light when this car literally stops slowly at the red light looks both ways and just takes it, only to stop at the other light once he made the immediate left turn (that’s what you get a-hole). My light turns green he’s still there… follow the curb around, make a left to get on the 95 and BAMB He get’s stuck at the red light before getting on to the 95…(See had you waited at the red light at our building like everyone behind me was, you still would have jumped on the 95 at the very same time I did). I just truly do not understand…. By the way, this wasn’t the first time I saw someone take the red light to make a left turn there. I understand traffic isn’t that bad there, but it doesn’t give you the right to take the red light before you are supposed to. Perhaps there is someone crossing the street you don’t see and you are only looking for cars coming your way. Or maybe you just didn’t see that car coming straight, what then? Have patience people, life isn’t going anywhere, and if it does it’s more than likely because you caused an accident for being a complete ass.

People are always in a hurry, or you have your blinker on and they don’t let you in, (don’t pretend you don’t see my blinker), stop being rude and be nice for a change, you aren’t going to get there any quicker by cutting people off or not letting them pass, you might get there a whole 2 minutes earlier than you would have being nice. So next time you think about cutting someone off, being completely rude or taking a red light, think to yourself “is it really worth it”?

Miami Drivers – Then they wonder why we are listed as one of the most “raged” drivers in the U.S.

xo,
kristin nicole

The Story: By MJD – Yahoo Sports

Back in July, there was a big to-do about Cowboys rookie wide receiver Dez Bryant(notes) refusing to carry pads for fellow wide receiver Roy Williams. It’s tradition in the NFL that rookies perform menial chores for veteran teammates, so Bryant’s refusal drew some attention and criticism.

The mini-controversy blew over quickly. Bryant apologized, Williams accepted and everyone moved on. Williams did mention, though, that Bryant would have to pick up a dinner tab, and at the instant that Bryant refused the pad-carrying, Williams suddenly got a little hungrier and a little thirstier.

After the Cowboys beat the Texans, it was finally time for that dinner. The end result? Bryant probably wishes he’d have carried those pads. From Calvin Watkins at ESPN:

Monday night at Pappas Bros. Steakhouse, Bryant took the offensive players out, then Williams invited the defensive players and when the night was over the bill came: $54,896.

“They got the young fella,” said Bryant’s adviser David Wells. “What could he say? He had to pay it unless he wanted to wash dishes for a month.”

Players ordered basically everything on the menu and even took home bottles of wine.

Well played, Roy Williams. Not only was it a nice touch to invite the defense, but to also wait until everyone was in a celebratory and festive mood? That’s a veteran move.

Even when you factor in the number of players who attended, it still comes out to a ridiculous amount of money spent on food and drink for each person. Active game-day rosters include 45 people. Figure that some people probably skipped the festivities, and some coaches and other personnel might have been there, and we’ll guess it was around 50 people. That’s still well over $1,000 per person.

Revenge must have been delicious.

My Thoughts:

Really??? $54,896 dollars on dinner??? Really??? It’s crazy how much money is out there. This restaurant just made $54,896 in one sitting. Some people save months or even years to spend that amount of money on a down payment for a house, and some people spend that much money on a wedding. This was spent on a dinner. Now I know the “tradition” is for the Rookie to take some heat and do things for the veterans and I know Bryant was being a little bit of a spoiled brat for refusing to carry Watkins pads, but damn, he’s a rookie and he just started making the big bucks and he’s already had to dish out $54,896 (Okay so that might not be much to a person who’s possibly making millions) but it’s still a lot of money in the eyes of you and me who don’t even make that much a year haha. I guess a part of me believes he got what he deserved for not picking up slack and helping out and even though he apologized I guess the guys just wanted to teach him a lesson. But isn’t this a harsh lesson guys? I guess MJD is right:
Revenge must have been delicious. and I bet he’s wishing he would have not been so stuck up about helping carry a few pads out to the field for practice. This should be a lesson to any future rookies out there. Carry the pads, it’s cheaper than a dinner out with the boys.

xo,
kristin nicole

The Story: Written by: Lisa Bolivar
DANIA BEACH (CBS4) ―

Sep 27, 2010 12:25 am US/Eastern

Timothy Jordan took a deadly dare during his 46th birthday party Saturday night, and lost.

Jordan, who would have had his actual birthday on Sept. 28, took a $50 bet that he could swim across a canal near his Dania Beach home. He didn’t make it.

Witnesses say Jordan, who was drunk, made it half way across the canal before he began flailing his arms and then went under at about 2 a.m.

Friends gathered at the site told Broward Sheriff’s Office and Dania Beach Fire Rescue responders that Jordan had stripped down to his boxers before jumping into the canal.

It took a couple of hours to find his body. At 4:21 a.m. BSO Marine Unite divers found Jordan at the bottom of 10 feet of water.

While the Broward County Medical Examiner will confirm the cause of death, BSO homicide detectives currently are considering this an accidental drowning, according to BSO Spokesman Mike Jachles.

CBS4.com

My Thoughts:

These are the kind of things that make you stop and think before you do. Jordan was going to turn 46 years old, he was still young and vital and had a lot of more years to enjoy with friends and family, and because some people get drunk and think they can fly doesn’t really mean you can fly. My question here is “No one tried swimming out there when they saw him struggling to swim”? And why would you actually let him swim out there knowing he was drunk? There is one thing to dare someone and see them get ready to to actually do the dare and stopping them and there’s another – actually letting them do the stupid thing you came up with for them to do. Now Jordan lost his life, but now the friend who thought it would be funny to see their friend swim across a canal drunk is the one that has to live with the guilt of feeling like they killed their own friend.

Some people need to grow up. It’s okay to take dares, and live life on the edge and it’s also okay to back down when you really think it can end your life or end on a bad note.

Some people say life’s too short, take risks, but if taking risks ends your life, then life really will be too short, shorter than it really had to be.

xo,
kristin nicole

The Question:

I am currently living with my husband overseas in Bumholder Germany. I have been thinking about it a while now and decided I need a divorce. My husband is emotionally abusive, he’s thrown used protection(not sure if i can say the other word) at my face before, when he left for his last training he only gave me 40 dollars to last a month and a half and i have a child as well and no transportation. He tells me he hates me every day yet he refuses to let me move back home. I feel the only option I have left is to divorce him. I am also worried about him finding out. I don’t feel safe living with him and I’ll feel even less safe being here while we are going through a divorce; he has a tendency to sharpen his knifes after we have fought and threaten me that scares me to death. I need all the possible information on how to go about getting a divorce. Who should I try to contact. My husband leaves again for training next week and will be gone another month and a half. At this time I’ll most likely have no money again and I know it’s a short time frame to get this all done I was just trying to deal with it and hope that something would change but it hasn’t. I don’t even like him being around our daughter, who is 7 months old. The only time she’s around him is when I shower, and it tears my nerves up because he is always screaming at her because she won’t stop crying. But it’s just because he has nothing to do with her and she isn’t really familiar with him. I have no idea who I’m suppose to go to or call. Also, if I tell them that I feel unsafe living with him while going through a divorce can they help and place me somewhere else until it is finished? I just need all the help I can get, please!

My Response:

Dear Abused wife;

If you are from the United States go to the embassy, I am sure that there is something you can do about getting back to your family while you get a divorce. You can also go to his platoon, being abusive is against any military law. He can get arrested and discharged from the military. I am not sure how far you want to go, this may anger him more, but you need to stand up and fight for yourself and for your daughter it is not safe nor is it healthy to stay in this relationship any longer. What he’s doing is wrong, and you staying with him is not going to help your daughter have a normal and good life. Giving you $40 to last a month is ridiculous. Have you thought about getting a job, the military helps with day care and things like that if you need to get a job to save money. The best bet is to go to his commanding officer (boss) and tell him what is going on, explain that you want to go back to the United States but that he refuses to let you go. If you have family, call them, have them send you money and get your passports and get out of there. Figure out the divorce later, but you need to find yourself a lawyer asap so that you can file the divorce and file that you are scared for your life (if this is so). No one should have to take abuse, find a way out and do it as soon as you can. If you have any friends you can trust maybe you can also stay with them if you can’t get back to the US. (Again I am assuming you are from the US). If you are not from the US, then get back to where ever you are from, call a friend or family. If you don’t have friends or family then you will have no other choice but to go to his boss and tell him what is going on. Good luck….

xo
kristin nicole

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The Question:

We’ve been dating for a little over 6 months, he’s 19, I’m 17.
We both have pretty low-stress lifestyles, at the moment doing a simple course with little study or work content whatsoever.. so i figure it isn’t stress. The thing is, we still do sexual things, almost every night, but never actual sex. Which bothers me because by “we do sexual things” i mean, i give him a bl0w job, and we go to sleep. The funniest part is that when we first started dating he told me he didn’t like blow jobs and had never ‘blown his load’ during. My guess is my ‘skills’ are a drastic improvement upon his other girlfriends, because after a little bit of convincing, he let me give it a go and now it’s all he wants! Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad he enjoys it and i have no problem doing it, but a girls gotta get some every now and again or she gets pissy.. (at least, i do…) Not to mention it’s making me feel very unattractive, despite all his reassurances. Any similar experiences or advice?

My Response:

Dear not getting any;

He’s young, he shouldn’t have little sex drive at all, he should be wanting to have sex with you 247. If he’s only wanting you to go down south then you need to stop, and tell him that you want him to go down south on you for a change; Or simply state what you want and tell him you want him. If this doesn’t work then I would start wondering if there is something else behind the whole (him not wanting sex and only bl**jobs) He’s also just 19 and we think about things way more then men do, so maybe he just thinks you enjoy going down on him and you aren’t looking for any other type of satisfaction. COMMUNICATION is key in any relationship especially when it comes to sex. Speak up, tell him what you want and that you don’t go down on him for his pleasure only, you need some attention too. Good luck….

xo
kristin nicole

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The Question:

We have been together about 4.5 yrs and I recently found out that when I was away one weekend a couple of years ago that he kissed one of my best friends. I confronted him about it and he says he is sorry and that he was stupid and would never do it again. I also confronted her and she said that she was sorry and didn’t want to tell me…afraid that I would be mad (ya think) and that we would break up. I have forgiven him and her and still love them both but I can’t forget and now now we don’t communicate.

My Response:

Dear Lied To;

It’s hard to gain someones trust back, the fact that he kissed your best friend and then hid it from you for so long is hard. He can’t expect you to just forget just because it happened a few years back. You have to trust that it was only that one time and he’s been faithful to you for the past years until now. You have to think about that and you have to really find it in your heart to truly let go. If you feel that you can’t let go your relationship won’t last. Communicate to him, tell him you are still hurt about this even though you forgave them both and you feel that the two of you aren’t communicating lately. Communication is key, don’t hold on to this it will only harm you more. If you know deep down you won’t ever trust him, this is the time to speak up, don’t wait another 4 years before realizing that you could have moved on a long time ago. If you can forgive him and start trusting him again then do that, and when you feel like you aren’t trusting him about something just try to remember that this has never happened before (it was only the one time) it doesn’t make it right but the truth is out now and he’s going to have to deal with that. Did he tell you that this happened a few years ago? How did you find out? If he told you about it, then the lies were probably eating away at him and it’s a good thing he told you, that means he can’t keep secrets from you, however he did hide it for a long time and that is something you have to think about. It’s hard when someone lies about something so big and the lie comes out, but now you have to make a decision. Open up to him and try to make it work, or move on.

xo,
kristin nicole

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The Question:

My husband and I got married last year, we didn’t have any money to have a big wedding, so the two of us went abroad and got married. No one made a fuss, bought us gifts or even a card!! Everyone thought I must have been having a baby or something but its difficult to explain how poor we are, and my parents are also very poor. I feel so upset our friends didn’t make any effort and my husbands family didn’t even send a card.

My husbands family are very rich and his sister has just got married abroad (where she lives). She is coming over to have a blessing with the family ans chose our wedding date! My in-laws are paying for a castle blessing and full blown reception. They are buying them their honeymoon too. They gave us £100.

I do feel a little jealous, but that’s life and its her parents choice to spend that money on their daughter, but why steal our day?! We didn’t get a proper wedding and now our 1st wedding anniversary is going to be spoiled. We are financially better off now and in a humph I bought my husband and I a trip abroad to celebrate our anniversary (and to avoid the wedding!!).

Now i am not sure how to tell everyone we are not going, we have known about it for a good 6/8 weeks now, Also, am i wrong to feel so annoyed???? I feel its not fair of my husbands parents to favor her so much more than him. He is much nicer than her, visits more, buys them more and always sends birthday cards to family etc, she does not.

Thanks.

My Response:

Dear Jealous;

Unfortunately some parents don’t believe in paying for the son’s wedding and it’s traditional to help with their daughters wedding. So let me get this straight your husbands sisters wedding is on the same day as your wedding anniversary? In this age of time unfortunately not many people think about doing nice things for others, even though you couldn’t afford a wedding so you just eloped your friends and his family having money should have at least offered to take you out to dinner or get you a small gift. I know it’s hard to admit you don’t have money for a wedding but you should have just been honest with at least his family that you couldn’t afford a wedding and you wanted to get married so that is why you eloped. It is also your husbands responsibility to speak up to his family if he’s hurt about them not even sending you guys a card. If you have known about the wedding for 6 to 8 weeks you should have really spoken up then that you had a trip planned on that date, and you had already bought the tickets. I do think it’s a little strange they would pick the same date as yours, and I don’t blame you for being a little jealous considering you didn’t get to have your big wedding or even a party to celebrate. Have your husband tell his family that you aren’t going to the wedding, that’s his family and it’s not your responsibility to tell them. Then go on your one year anniversary trip and have the fun you haven’t been able to have for your wedding. If no one has the consideration to consider your anniversary or do anything for you guys when you got married then don’t worry so much about what they are going to think if you don’t go to the wedding. I would be the bigger person and at least send her a card and a small gift then go on your trip and ENJOY.

xo
kristin nicole

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The Question:

Dear Kristin Nicole;

I moved to Pgh to finish my degree and I started looking for someone of the fairer sex when I arrived. I used an online dating site, and I made contact with a wonderful girl. We e-mailed and talked on the phone, eventually had a first date that went well. The next few nights after our first date, we hung out and it was wonderful. I think we’re incredibly different, but its really nice. She’s a post-grad law student and I’m trying to bag an AS in Air Traffic Control and I have no major interest in going too much further, I’m more about building my pilot resume than additional degrees. I’m more of an outdoor kid and she’s not as much. I have some type of free time, and try to have as much free time as possible, and she doesn’t. This is one of the reasons I’m writing, I am also writing to seek advise on what I can do to make us “exclusive”.

When I initially looked at her profile, one of the comments on the page referenced her insane schedule and how someone would have to be okay with that, but that she would make time for the right person. I was cool with that, my schedule is crazy as well, but hers is unbearable. I understand the need to succeed and for professional development, but I don’t get the insane extra things she takes on. Also, I hate hearing about the most recent additional undertaking, as that’s even less time I’ll have to spend with her. The few hours a week is hard enough, I’m used to more. How do I get used to this, or express my feelings about this without sounding like a complete jerk? I want her to do well and go far, even if we don’t, so I am not completely against it all. I just want to tell her that I kinda need more time with her, without making her feel guilty, overwhelmed, or bitter for entering the relationship.

My second question involves the status of our relationship. I’m not a huge dater, never been that great with the ladies, and you know this seeing as we used to hang in SD, so I’m not juggling dates that often or trying to make a decision on who I should go out with. After the first date, the second was a movie and make out date at my apartment the next night, and the following night she had me over to a BBQ with some of her best friends. I was nervous about the meeting of the friends, as sometimes they are more judgmental than when you meet the father for the first time. Things went well and we talk everyday, and I assumed we were a step above dating, but not too much more than that. I was talking to a close friend a few days later and our topic of conversation got me thinking about what our status was. I asked, and while we were chatting about it, I found out she was still visiting the site we met from and was currently online. After the third date, I shut my profile off, as I felt it would be the more honest thing to do. Her answer to the what is our status was dating, but she isn’t seeing anyone else. How do I make this go to exclusive? She wants to take things slow, as time is at a minimum, but I can be slow exclusively! I didn’t mention anything about the activity on the dating site, should I? What is my best course of action here, I’m so damn lost.

What do you think? I know I already said it once, but I really like her, but I’m not sure how to proceed. I could walk away, find someone that had time to spend and go on, but I don’t want to always wonder. At the same time, I don’t want to wait forever for something that’s not going to happen. I’m trying my best to stay optimistic, but its hard sometimes.

Thanks for your thoughts!

My Response:

Dear Speak Up;

I’m so happy that you have found someone you like, however, your schedules seem very busy and sometimes unfortunately we meet people at the wrong times in our lives. Don’t take this has a bad thing though, sometimes it works out. Just be honest with her. Take her out on a date and tell her how you feel, tell her that you want to take things slow but that you want to make things exclusive (I know it sounds corny) but ask her to be your girlfriend. I’m an old fashion kind of girl when it comes to that and I think it’s cute and sexy all at the same time for a man to be able just ask for what he wants. Don’t be out right front with her and demand she spend more time with you, explain to her that you understand you both have busy schedules but that you really would love to see her more often and then go from there. (I wouldn’t mention her status on the dating site until you are officially exclusive). If you really like her and want a relationship with her then go for it, you’ll never know if it will work out if you don’t try. If in the end it’s just too hard because of your schedules and different lives then the best thing to do after that is move on. If you guys are totally different and you are just physically attracted to her then maybe it’s best to move on now. I mean you are an out door kind of guy, don’t you want a women that loves the out doors just as much as you so that you can have adventures together? And even though she’s not an out door kind of girl you can always try to see if she’s willing to try. I never listened to certain music until I got with my boyfriend, sometimes we change what we thought we didn’t like into something we actually enjoy for the people we love. (You guys aren’t quiet at the love part yet) but if she really likes you and wants to try to take it to the next level with you then maybe she’ll be willing to try some outdoor activities. If you met her friends already and she’s hanging out with you when she can then this is a good sign that she does like you, so if you don’t want to have your relationship status up in the air, talk to her and be honest with how you feel. Tell her you want to take things slow but that you want to make it official….If she’s not ready for that then move on before your feelings get more involved. You are a great guy, you just have to have a little more confidence in yourself, life’s too short to keep holding in all those feelings, let them out and tell her how you feel.

xo,
kristin nicole

The Question:

I get cheated on, the I love you but not in love with you speech, have to deal with him moving out, all the pain and what is he doing?? Getting a “great” new place to live…
Posting on FB obscure stuff like “waiting, hopeful, ready, wondering”. I don’t know if that is in regards to a job promotion, getting his new place, the married girl he is “seeing” or what.

I know! I am not supposed to look. I have been so good with no contact. But, tonight all alone and hurt– and he is out and about and happier than ever. Is that real???

Has anyone been through this? How do you deal?
And is it a little disrespectful, it has only been 3 weeks! Why would you post things like that? And he wonders why I wont respond to him.

My Response:

Dear Dumped;

Break ups are never easy, especially when you are the one being dumped. There are reasons we’ll never understand of why men do the things they do or say the things they say. You have to just take it as it is, and it’s not easy. First stop looking at his Facebook status you are only torturing yourself and it is not going to make it any easier. He left you to move on with his life so that is what he’s doing, if he cared at all for you, if he truly loved you he would be with you. He was honest with you and at least you have that. Trust me what goes around comes around, he’s with a married women, more than likely it’s all fun now but in the end it most likely won’t work out and he’ll be lonely wishing he would have seen what a great women you are. Or he can turn around one day and know that he did the right thing by leaving you, and you’ll realize it too, that in the end it’s always meant to be. If someone doesn’t love you, if they aren’t truly 100% in love with you, then you don’t want that person to pretend, you don’t want them leading you on into thinking you have a life together when all along they aren’t even happy, trust me that’s much worse. I do think it’s disrespectful that he’s moving on so fast, considering you lived together, but that should only show you the kind of man he really is. Get out there, stop looking at his posts on Facebook and start making your own posts. Be positive, stand strong and I know it hurts now, but it will get better. Go out with your friends and get your mind off him, move on….Start new…..

xo
kristin nicole

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The Question:

Why does my wife only want to have “relations” when I’m sleeping?
Not that I’m complaining…I will take what I can get. But the only time she initiates is when I’m sound asleep sometimes I’m so “out of it” I vaguely remember it and I have to ask did we do it last night? What is with this? Is it some fetish of hers?

My Response:

Dear Sleeper;

This can definitely be a fetish of hers, maybe you being a little out of it turns her on. Personally I find it a little strange but hey to each their own. Why don’t you talk to your wife, maybe she’s hiding some secret fetishes that she wants to display and you are sitting back not asking and falling asleep in the process. Open up to her and maybe your sex life will get even more interesting.

xo
kristin nicole

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