Category Archives: Friendship

My Best Friend…

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My Best Friend

We have known each other for way too long
You aren’t just my best friend
You are like a sister at all costs.

We have been through ups and downs
at one point we didn’t talk
life moved on
and then one day out of no where
you came back into my life
it was has if we never stopped talking
as if we had never been apart
that’s how you truly know this friendship will never part.

You mean the world to me
everything you do
I know if I need you
You’ll help me through

If you’re ever in a bind
I hope you know I’ll do the same
No matter what time or day
I’ll always be here
Just call out my name…

I know it sounds corny
but the saying is true
Friends for Ever
Just Me & YOU!

© ~Written by: kristin nicole – March 16, 2011

xo,
kristin nicole

Dedicated to my best friend Grace – I have known her for over 15 years now and she is like a sister to me in so many ways. I was inspired to write this poem after she wrote me a sweet message on my facebook page. She just got married, and I was so lucky to have been chosen as her Maid of Honor…. It is truly a blessing when you find a true friend for life… Love you….

Get Your Own Friend

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Get your own Friends

Get your own friends
why do you have to seek out mine?
are you not over it?
give up your pride…

Tell me a story
the one that fell apart
the one that left you
and died out your heart

Get your own friends
leave mine alone
is it not enough that it ended,
that you keep lurking around my door?

Time is of essence
we all have to move on
leave it alone now
leave it be
leave, leave, leave…

Get out of my mind
out my head
leaving was the best thing
if not I’d be dead

Get your own friends
just leave mine alone
find a new hobby
find a new friend
just stop trying to steal mine instead…

© ~written by: kristin nicole – March 2011

This was inspired by a dream a friend told me about. She stopped being friends with her child hood friend and she started hanging out with her friends and taking them from her, she just wanted to move on from their friendship, but every time she turned around, she was there. Hope you enjoyed the poem.

xo,
kristin nicole

Tomorrow’s your Big Day…

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Tomorrow’s your Big Day…

Tomorrow’s your big day
The day you tie the knot,
The day you say I do,
And forever be his glue.

I see the way you look at him,
The smile in your eyes,
The way he looks at you,
The love just shines.

Tomorrow’s your big day
I’ll stand right by your side
I know your dad won’t be there
but he’s watching from above,
watching every step you take,
and sending you his love.

Tomorrow’s your big day,
The day you tie the knot,
The day you say I do,
and forever be true.

Tomorrow’s your big day,
A marriage made by two,
The day you fall in love again
and say I DO…

xo,
kristin nicole

© Written By: Kristin Nicole – 2011

Dedicated to my best friend, my sister who I adore. I love you and I wish you nothing but the best filled with happiness and love. I love you.

I Slept with my twins boyfriend

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Like she wont speak to me and when she found out she pushed me down the stairs, it was a bit dramatic really. I think it is her boyfriends fault though he shouldn’t of done it. Shes a brat pushing me though, argh do you think that’s wrong ?

My response:

Dear twin;

First how old are you? Second, she has every right to be mad at you, that is the ultimate betrayal from anyone let a lone a sister and especially a twin sister (usually twins are a little closer than most siblings). Perhaps your sister went too far pushing you down the stairs, but you aren’t physically hurt are you? If it were me, I might have kicked your a**. However, I am hoping that she dumped that looser of a boyfriend because if he’s willing to sleep with his girlfriends own sister the guy is a (well we won’t say what he is here, but you get my drift). It’s the boyfriends fault as much as it is yours. He didn’t force you to sleep with him, and his little wienie didn’t just fall into you, take responsibility and stop blaming only the boyfriend, it’s his fault as much as it is yours. Need advice DON’T sleep with your sisters boyfriend, friends boyfriends or anyone elses boyfriend. Perhaps you need to ask yourself why you felt you had to sleep with your own sisters boyfriend to begin with? Put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel if your sister slept with one of your boyfriends? Then come back and ask if she was over reacting. Beg your sister for forgiveness and hope that she forgives you and trusts you again, because if it was me I don’t think it would be that easy to forgive you or trust you again. Good luck and I hope you learned a valuable lesson here….DON’T SLEEP WITH ANYONE ELSES BOYFRIEND!

xo,
kristin nicole

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My bestfriend slept with my husband…

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I’m divorced, my husband cheated on me with my best friend. I just confronted her right now….!! Please tell me whether I did the right thing or not. The ex best friend and I met outside a high street shop, I had a bag full of all the things she had ever given me and as soon as I saw her, I threw them on the floor and chucked them in the trash. Then she tried to walk away, I grabbed her arm, gave her a piece of my mind and threw our childhood photographs in her face and said, “Some f****** friend you are”. She was taken aback, slapped me and then I pushed her against the wall, called her a ***** and left her picking the photographs up. I walked away and when I looked back she was on the phone with – my EX husband (who she is currently living with). Did I do the right thing or not, I was SO hurt and angry.

My response:

Dear Hurt & Angry;

Let me start with WOW! Do you have kids with your ex husband? How long ago was this if she is already living with your ex husband and you are already divorced. I can’t believe it’s taken you this long to confront her. I say you did what you felt you needed to do, there is no wrong in you confronting her about her friendship or her sleeping with your husband at the time. She was definitely NOT a friend! What you did was actually very calm, she actually had no right to slap you, she is the one who cheated with your husband, and not only is she a cheater she cheated with her so called best friends husband, and now is living with him. Am I getting all this right?!? What kind of person does this??? Definitely not a GOOD Person! If I was you, I would have probably just dumped all the stuff we had together in the trash a long time ago, and I would have definitely confronted her sooner, I would have told her how I felt, how disgusting she is to do such a thing, and if she laid one hand on me, I would have probably done more then just push her down the way you did. So don’t for one second feel bad about doing what you did, or confronting her. She betrayed your friendship and your trust in one of the most worst ways possible. You deserve a better friend and a whole of a lot better MAN! Good for you for moving on and you have every right to be hurt and angry. Now that you have confronted her, try to move on and forget about them, I know its easier said than done, but you deserve better people in your life. Those two deserve each other, and always remember KARMA! What goes around comes around. Those two will get it one way or the other.

xo,
kristin nicole

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Know someone who needs advice or want to tell me how you feel on this subject leave me a comment or email me at soapnights@gmail.com
xoxo

How do I get out of the “FRIEND ZONE”?!?

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Dear Kristin Nicole,

I discovered this blog because I’ve been exploring ways to become more confident with dating. Not too long ago I got dumped by my girlfriend and I’m a bit nervous about returning to the whole “singles scene”. Unfortunately my “skills” with flirting are out of practice, to say the least! Also, can your readers send in topics they want to personally ask you about? Right now I have a specific question on this subject because I am going through a frustrating situation with a girl I like and I’m just not sure how to move forward. I guess you could say I’m stuck in the “friend zone.” I’d really like to ask for your advice…or maybe someone can recommend a book that I ought to read? I would really like to get some advice on how to stay out of the friend zone with girls I like.

Please help,
Friends Zone

My Response:

Dear Friends Zone,

I know it’s hard to be dumped by your girlfriend but you have to move on from that, don’t let that interfere with your confidence. If you like this new girl and you want to get out of the “friend zone” then tell her how you feel. Ask her out on a date, the worst thing that could happen is that she says no, but at least you are finally back in the “single scene”. Use this has practice, and don’t stress too much on your flirting skills, just let it come to you naturally, if she’s flirting back with you it’s more then likely she likes you too, and she’s just waiting for you to finally ask her out.

If any readers have specific questions and want my advice they are more then welcome to leave a comment or even better for privacy they can email me at soapnights@gmail.com

I don’t know of any books that are good on how to stay out of the ‘friends zone’ but if any readers know of any please feel free to leave any books you think would help on this subject.

Remember confidence is always the key to any situation, when you know and feel you own the situation you will, and after that it will only come naturally to you.

xo,
kristin nicole

Feeling Alone in the World.

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Feeling Alone in the World.

Ever feel like you just really didn’t belong;
Like something is different inside you than most?
Ever feel lost and completely alone?

You aren’t the only one, you are not the only one who has felt like this and I guarantee that more than 90% of people (statistics made by my opinion – not true statistics), feel this way at least once in their life time, and if you are that other 10% that has never felt this way (I take my hat off to you) and I would love to know your secret to always feeling secure and as if you truly belong, I would love to share your story with those of us who aren’t so lucky to feel that way. (It can be a true inspiration to know how strong some people are and how secure they are with themselves and the world around them).

Those of us who know what it feels like to feel different, to feel like you just don’t belong knows about the tears and the confusion you feel inside. Do I belong here or there or anywhere? Sometimes in life we just settle, we decide to give in to give up on trying to fit in and feel accepted, and although we have love from family and friends there is always that little piece of hope that maybe one day that feeling of emptiness will just disappear.

In life comes the ups and the downs and sometimes we just sit back and look at what has happened through out our lives, we look at it as if it was an open book, reading page by page and wondering what will happen when I get to the end of this book? I try not to regret things in life, because you can never turn back time, you can never change the things that have happened and you can never change what was supposed to happen so why regret it, but sometimes I cannot help but wonder if I hadn’t made those mistakes, if I would have just kept moving forward, if my mind thought differently when I was 19 like I do now, or even if those decisions you know you made would have changed your course in life, would it be a better route, or would I have ended up in the same place I see myself now? Decisions that you want to make sometimes are changed by families influence and thoughts of what you would do if they weren’t near, or what they would think or say if you decided to do what you truly wanted to do. Sometimes in life we have other things holding us back, school, jobs, partners, family or friends and at the end of the day we choose what we think will make most people happy, we choose not for ourselves but for others. At the end of the day we need to start choosing for ourselves, we need to see if those who love us will encourage us, if those who love us will comfort us and support us because at the end of the day as time keep moving forward, I have realized more than ever how short life really is, how living in the NOW is so important than living in what can be, or maybe one day, or perhaps in the future…because doing what we really want to do now is our chance to see if what we really want is right in front of us.

No one is stopping us from feeling accepted, no one is stopping us from being happy and finding love and moving on to bigger and better things, we use our family and friends as excuses but the only one person stopping you from doing what you truly want to do is YOU. Make a change in your life today to choose something that will make you happy. Start with something small, like your family doesn’t like for you to eat chocolate, take a small piece of chocolate and savor it. Start small and move up from there, but remember life is too short to keep waiting, if you love someone tell them, don’t keep waiting and putting off something just because you feel you aren’t completely ready, go for the goal, the light at the end of the tunnel, do what you want for you and live life to the fullest, because at the end of the day we all die, at the end of the day tomorrow is never promised….Live, Love, Laugh…

xo,
kristin nicole

Losing the people we love…

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Life’s struggles:

In life we lose the people we love, sometimes something as simple as a breakup and other times something called forever. We live our lives not realizing that tomorrow is not guaranteed and we take advantage of the people we love. Sometimes we don’t even get the chance to tell them we love them because we had a petty argument. This week I’ve seen a bosses dad pass away, a friends mom and the faith they hold inside, that things really do happen for a reason.

In the end…

It’s inevitable to avoid the fact that one day we are going to lose someone we love. Whether it’s our grandparents, our parents, our spouse, and some people lose people they never thought possible, their children. We don’t know why things happen and we don’t know why we have to lose the people we love and go through that pain, but it’s a pain that no one can truly explain, even though at one point in our lives we have all felt it or we are going to feel it one day. Life doesn’t teach us how to deal with losing someone we love, it doesn’t teach us how to cope or how to keep living our lives without them, we just do.

The day comes…

The day comes when we have to feel that pain, we have to cry and we have to grieve and we have to keep living without the people we love. This is why it’s so important to not take advantage of the people you love, make sure to tell them you love them and make sure that no matter what happens you are there. For that one split second in time when your life stops, when your heart stops, we grieve for the person we lost, and we hold that sadness inside of us in which we hope will only make us stronger and we continue to live our daily lives without them, because the world doesn’t stop for us, the world doesn’t let us cry on it’s shoulder and it doesn’t let us understand why things happen for a reason. Sometimes we ask why? but there never seems to be an answer, and we keep moving forward. Life stops for no one, so don’t stop living, don’t stop believing and don’t stop telling the people you love that you love them, because at the end of the day, the world keeps moving forward, we keep moving forward.

xo,
kristin nicole

Found out husband of nearly 20 years cheated on me when we were dating?

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I’ve been married for nearly 20 years and I just found out that my husband cheated on me when we were dating with one of my friends for a short while. He says this was the only time he has been unfaithful and that he regrets it and he wishes it never happened. He sounds deeply sorry but I have no idea what to do. I am completely devastated and heartbroken but he is the love of my life and we have 4 children together.

My Response:

Dear 20 years;

This isn’t something you are going to get over in one night, just because it happened 20 years ago. However, with that said, you should move on, you have to trust that your husband has been faithful to you for this long, especially if you have had no doubt otherwise. Talk to your husband and tell him how you feel, don’t hold your feelings inside and work things out. As for your friend, is this still your friend? I don’t know how I would feel about a “friend” not telling me about what actually happened, and holding this secret from me for so many years. Lies always seem to come out, one way or the other. I am not saying you should forgive and forget your husbands infidelity just like that, but if he’s been a good husband and father for the past 20 years then you should find a way to forgive him. Find a way to trust him again and keep that love that has kept you together for the past 20 years alive. It’s normal to feel the way you are feeling, don’t feel bad about how you are feeling and talk through your feelings.

Good Luck.

xo,
kristin nicole

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Be strong ~ Inspired by Madison Schafer

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Be Strong

When you feel like your world is falling apart
have faith and stand strong.
When you feel like it’s the end of the world
remember that there are people out there who are suffering more than you are right now.
If you are the one suffering and you don’t know what to do
remember to pray
remember to not hate what you can not control
remember that we all need love in our hearts to move forward
because if we give in to the hate,
if we give in to the sadness
we are only admitting defeat.
Stand strong
Be strong
Life is a journey
we all take the bad with the good
and we all wonder at one point in our lives
“why is this happening to me”?

Let love enter your heart
with love, the world has no end
with love we know no limits
with love we have support of the ones we care for
with love we smile
with love we cry
with love we know no boundaries
and yet we keep loving
we keep living
and we keep having the faith that in the end Everything will be alright.

xo,
kristin nicole

My thoughts:

I have been thinking recently about how we all complain about things we aren’t happy about in life. Only you can change the actions that cause your life events and only you can change fate. My last two posts have been about this little girl who is only 20 months old fighting for her life due to a tumor in her brain that is cancerous. Her family I can only imagine is in shambles, wondering what is going to happen, not knowing if tomorrow will come and looking into the beautiful eyes of that baby girl (Madison Schafer). I think about how we complain about things in life, but if you stop just for one second to realize all the beautiful things you have in life you might realize that the bad stuff happening right now is actually not so bad. Realize that there are people out there like the Schafer family who is struggling way more than some people can ever imagine. Have faith and pray and remember that miracles do happen, positive thinking really does change outcomes and in the end remember the people you love, love them back because tomorrow is never promised. Tomorrow is not guaranteed, and we take so many things for granted, we take life for granted. Pray like there is no tomorrow, love like you have never loved before, and live life to your fullest. ~Live, Love, Laugh~

© ~written by: kristin nicole – 09.16.10 @7:35 am ~

Today the Schafer family will learn about Madison’s condition and they will see what treatments they will need to give Madison for her recovery. My prayers are with them all.