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He is a virgin but I’m not…

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The Question:

Dear Kristin Nicole;

My boyfriend that I am with now is a virgin, I didn’t know this when we first started dating, because he seems so confident, I had assumed he wasn’t a virgin. He is 23 years old and I am 21, I have had more than one partner in my life and I am wondering if I am going to enjoy having sex with my boyfriend. I want someone who is going to know what to do, not someone I have to tell what to do. Is it wrong of me to think this way? Should I break up with him, or should I take his virginity?

~ Boyfriends a Virgin

My Response:

Dear Boyfriends a Virgin;

You shouldn’t break up with your boyfriend just because he is a virgin, you obviously liked him enough to become his girlfriend. It may not be the same as the other men you have been with, but he might just surprise you. Try taking the dominant role and perhaps showing him exactly what you like will win over the rest in the end. Sometimes you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, but one that doesn’t know any better might be worth a little work. Have you tried doing other stuff with him? Perhaps having a little fun beforehand can loosen up the mood. If you really feel like you do not want to be with him, make sure before taking his virginity, although I’m sure he wouldn’t mind. Good luck

xo,
kristin nicole

Happy Birthday!

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Happy Birthday

Today is the day you were born
Today is the day I give thanks to the lord
Without you here, you wouldn’t be part of my world.

My world changed the day you came into my life
With every wish I wished upon a star
that one day I would find love
love found me a million miles away

Love entered my heart when I thought it was gone
you showed me the light,
you showed me the way,
if it wasn’t for you
my world would have gone astray.

Today is your birthday
and I wish you the world
I know that good things are coming your way
with every wish I make
with every breath I take
I know deep down that from here on out
only good things will come our way.

Happy Birthday to the man I love
Happy Birthday
Happy Birthday

I love you…..

xo,
kristin nicole

© ~Written By: Kristin Nicole August 23, 2011 – Monday~

Happy Birthday to a wonderful boyfriend, I hope you are enjoying our trip. I love you

He’s a bad kisser but good in bed…

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The Question:

Dear Kristin Nicole;

My boyfriend “Jason” and I, have been together for over a year and most of that we were long distance. As in every relationship, he was amazing at the beginning, and he still is as a boyfriend – he treats me well, he never lets me pay, he gives me compliments every single day and doesn’t complain about me at all, but there are certain things that make me wonder whether I want to be with him long-term. He doesn’t have a higher education which is fine with me, but he still doesn’t have a clue what he wants to do in the future. He has got a part-time job and lives with his parents (he will be 24 soon). I gave him a few ideas what he could do and he liked those jobs, but he would have to undertake some training which he isn’t very keen on doing. I feel like he thinks he is still a teenager and has his money just for fun (yes, after 7 years out of high-school he hasn’t saved much). Also, although he treats me well, he isn’t the nicest person, he shouts at his parents, calls him mum ‘bitch’, tweets random people to ‘fuck off’, simply he is a bit aggressive. Lastly, we don’t share the same sense of humor and he is a bad kisser. Good in bed, but a bad kisser.

I don’t want to leave him because I don’t want to hurt him and he gives me security, but I am young, I shouldn’t worry about finding another boyfriend.

Thanks for your time and help :)
~”Katie”

My Response:

Dear Katie;

It sounds to me like you are just settling to be with this guy. He’s turning 24 soon and it sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. You pretty much summed up reasons why not to be with him, can you think of any reasons why you should be with him? You have to think about your future, do you see yourself with a man like this? Not having a high education isn’t the worst thing, and like you said it isn’t a big deal, but the fact that he doesn’t want to try and work is a totally different situation. He needs to figure out what he wants to do in life, what career and what path he plans on taking, because if everything in life is a negative now, imagine how it will be later down the road.
You stated “Lastly, we don’t share the same sense of humor and he is a bad kisser. Good in bed, but a bad kisser.” There are so many other people out there where you will have things in common with. Being with someone and sharing things a like is a big thing to have in a relationship, if you feel that you don’t share the same humor/personality that can be a problem. As for being a bad kisser, you can always try to train him and tell him how you like it. You are young and you have so much time to find someone you are more compatible with. Don’t waste time on a boy (and I say boy because he hasn’t grown up yet); when there is probably something better waiting for you out there. If you truly love him, truly madly, deeply can see yourself spending the rest of your life with him, then sit with him and tell him how you feel, try to get him motivated into changing his life around. Good luck.

xo,
kristin nicole

Jump into the Jacuzzi with Ex or Current BF?

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I was scanning the web when I bumped into this article “Ask Kitty” the Title “Kitty Jumps into the Jacuzzi”.

The women wrote as follows:

“My company has a Jacuzzi on the 15th floor of our office building and I’m dying to try it out. There is a special guy in my life, but I’m thinking water sports should involve someone I can get wild and crazy with, i.e., my biker ex-boyfriend. Prior to our breakup, I promised him a romp in the tub, but we never got around to it. Would it be super-scandalous if I took him up there instead of my bf? And do we need to use a rubber? My bff told me the hot water will kill the sperm. A baby would be a clear indication I’ve cheated.” (you can find the link below, if you want to see Kitty’s response). ~Juana Getwhet

My Response:

Dear Juana,

First I would like to acknowledge the fact that you stated you had a best friend who told you hot water will kill sperm. First tell your friend to take some classes on “how to get pregnant”. YES, You can get pregnant in water, jacuzzi, pool with chlorine, any type of water anywhere that you aren’t using protection you can get pregnant. (Water will also not stop any transmitted diseases). I advise you get on a birth control pill because using a condom in the water can easily break. (Remember birth control pills also won’t help with transmitted diseases). BTW…(Sorry if I’m too blunt, but I don’t want you to make a mistake that you’ll later regret). As you indicated “A baby would be a clear indication that you cheated”. Along with many other responsibilities you’ll have to deal with later. Now back to the rump in the jacuzzi with someone who is “wild & crazy”. Have you even tried talking to your current man about getting wild & crazy in the jacuzzi on the 15th floor? How do you know he won’t be up for it? I guarantee any man wouldn’t pass an invitation like that up. If by chance he does turn you down, maybe you should re-think him being your man. My only other concern is the fact that just because your ex and you had discussed doing something like this, why would you even give him that chance to do that with you now that he is your EX? Perhaps you aren’t quiet over you ex? Issues we wold have to discuss another time.

In Conclusion:

Talk to your new man and have that wild & crazy night in the jacuzzi with him, not your Ex. And remember to always use protection.

XO,
Kristin Nicole

If you want to read what Kitty’s response was you can link Here.

My girlfriend is texting with another guy

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I don’t know if you are familiar with Yelp.com, but I was going through the threads when this question popped up:

The Question:

Its been almost a year and my girlfriend keeps texting back and forward with a coworker I was competing with when we were dating. This guy keeps telling her how beautiful she is and texting her when she is not at work. Initially I didn’t mind the competition but when she became mine, I let it go but this guy keeps coming back. Should I have a talk with her? I am not a jealous guy but I don’t want to be play a fool. Help!
Thanks.

My Thoughts:

Dear Mr. Not Jealous

Lets start off with my first question. Is your girlfriend texting this guy back?!?

You don’t want to cause conflicts at work if you work with this guy, so I would advise you talk to your girlfriend. You say you guys have been together for a year now, and that should mean open and honest communication with each other. Tell her how you feel, and have her text him back asking him to please not text her anymore. If she loves you and she wants your relationship to work, I see no problem in her doing this.

If she has a problem texting and telling this guy to stop texting her, then maybe there is something else behind these texts. If she’s texting him back, maybe he thinks it’s okay to tell your girlfriend she is beautiful. This is a disrespect to you and your relationship and he also needs to know that he’s stepping over his boundaries. Maybe go up to him nicely and ask him to please stop texting your girlfriend, that you don’t appreciate it. If this is too straight forward for you and you feel this may cause conflict (as I stated above) in the work place then speak to your girlfriend and have her tell him to stop.

If she refuses then maybe you need to sit down and see what she wants out of your relationship, because if she’s going to continue flirting and texting with this guy then maybe you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

XO,
Kristin Nicole

Tomorrow’s not Promised

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There comes a time in life when you have to realize this is it… when everything around you changes and you feel like you have changed as well. This is called “growing up”.

In a life full of questions, in a life full of fun, there isn’t a moment that passes that I wonder is this the one?

Is this the one time that I’ll make this mistake
Is this the one time I’ll cry
Is this the one time I’ll laugh
Or is this all a lesson of which I’ve passed?

Time is an essence
a tick of the clock
when you look around you
nothing has stopped.

Every day passes
another day gone
another day older
another day closer.

Live your life to the fullest
and have no regrets
because tomorrow’s not promised
but today…
today I live
today I grow
today i tell you i love you
Tomorrow, I just don’t know…

xo,
kristin nicole

© written by: kristin nicole 2009

Why does my BF have to jerk off even though…

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The Question:

Why does my boyfriend have to jerk off even though we have sex at least 10 -15 times a week? I found a new porn magazine in his bathroom drawer and when I moved in 5 months ago I was cool with the first one I found but when I looked through it the other day I noticed that this is a new magazine. What am I doing wrong? We will have sex up to 4 times a day if I’m willing. I’m really confused…

My Response:

Dear concerned;

Men aren’t like women, they think about sex way more than we do, so just because you are willing to have sex with them 4 or 5 times a day or 10-15 times a week doesn’t mean they still aren’t thinking about sex. Just because your boyfriend has magazines doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong, it’s natural for a man to masturbate a lot. They actually do this more then we think, and it has nothing to do with your sex life. If you don’t like the magazines that’s a different story, talk to your boyfriend about it. If it’s just the fact that you feel you are doing something wrong because he’s masturbating even though you have plenty of sex then just relax, because it’s absolutely normal for men. It’s not something I truly understand myself and I don’t think as a women we will ever understand it, so don’t even try, just know that it’s not you, and keep having sex with your man!

xo,
kristin nicole

I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

I want a threesome with another man & my husband

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Is there any possible way, that I can make my husband Steve let me have a three-some with another guy. So it will be Me, Steve, and another “go getter”. He is usually open about his sexuality since he is a homosexual. Excuse me if this gets a little graphic but I always wondered how it would feel for 2 things to be in 1 hole. This sounds very dirty and I’m sorry if I offend anyone its just been a long time fantasy for me. Any tips or advice for how I could work it into the conversation? Any tips to make it happen?
– Waldo

My Response:

Dear Waldo;

Well first off your husband is a homosexual and you married him anyway and he married you? I’m sorry are you a man or a woman? Sorry if I sound a bit rude, but I am just baffled by this question. Okay back to the question on hand….How to go about bringing up the conversation, if you have always been sexually honest with your husband than just bring up your fantasies and ask him what he would think about a threesome with another man. Then go from there, if he says he is not comfortable with it you should respect his wishes and maybe try buying a toy that will semi-satisfy the whole 2 things in one hole. If he says yes, then you have to take into consideration that your husband may like the other guy more than he likes you, and are you ready to accept that. (Of course this could be far from what happens) but you have to make rules as to what you both want before doing something like this. In personal experience, I have never nor ever wanted to have a threesome with another man. My man is my man only and I do not share under any circumstances but that’s just me.
Go for it if it’s what you really want and just come out and say what you feel. Good luck.

xo,
kristin nicole

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My boyfriends lost his sex drive…

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Dear Kristin Nicole,

My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. I am twenty six and he is twenty eight. We have a one year old and found out recently twins on the way. He has a four year old from a previous marriage too. We currently don’t live together. Before the twins I moved out due to his drinking issues. We have since found a new sense of respect and trust within each other and continue to improve on our bad fighting habits and both of us wish to resume and share a life together again. We are saving up for a larger home and currently we each live with our parents; but he will not have sex with me. He says he doesn’t have a drive, but I have seen him looking at porn, just not masturbating. What is up? Is it no privacy? Although we used to live at his moms together in the beginning with no sex issues. The twins? Stress? I am very hurt by this and have expressed so but still no action. Please help.

~Lost

Dear Lost,

Communication is key, you said you expressed that you were hurt by this to him already, but yet nothing has changed. I know it’s not an easy subject, but sex is an important part of a relationship, you need to sit down with your boyfriend (without distractions) and see what is going on with him. He could be feeling a bit overwhelmed with the fact that you have twins on the way, you already have a one year old plus he has another child that he has to pay child support to; maybe he is stressed over the financial situation and more. You moved out due to his drinking problems, but you say he’s gotten better, make sure this is the case. You don’t live with him so you don’t know what he does when you aren’t there. If you are trying to work things out and saving for a new home then you should be living together, see how things pan out first. Make sure that he has truly changed before you make a bigger commitment then you are already in with him. You should live together again and make sure that this is what you both want before buying a new home. It’s hard with already having a baby and two more on the way, I am sure he is a little scared and nervous and stressing over the finances. This could be a big part in why his sex drive hasn’t been up lately, just talk to him, be there for each other. You have caught him watching porn but not masturbating; have you talked to him about this? Maybe he’s trying to get in the mood somehow? Talk to him, these are answers only he can share with you, and if he’s not sure, maybe couple counseling will help. You have two more children on the way with this man, COMMUNICATE, try to make things work, but if the two of you aren’t completely 100% in this and happy, then you need to talk about where to go from here. Good luck…

xo,
kristin nicole

Confrontation…

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The Question:

Dear Kristin Nicole;

Have you ever had a confrontation with your boyfriend and later realized you were wrong and now you owe him an apology?

My Response:

Dear Confrontation;

I am sure many people have had confrontations with their boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses, parents, friends and have later come to realize they were wrong. If you are wrong the right thing to do is put your pride away and apologize. It will definitely make your relationships stronger knowing that you are woman enough to apologize. I would hope that your boyfriend would do the same if he realized he was wrong in any given situation. Owning up to your mistakes will teach you a lot along the way.
Good luck.

xo,
kristin nicole