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You’re my kind of Perfect

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Hello – Anyone out there reading my posts? Sadly no one entered a poem to be featured in today’s post, so I guess I will have to put one of my OLDER Poems…… I wrote this and tweaked it a little to sound a little better. If you are reading… Let me know what you think.

Random Thoughts…

Have you ever just realized that the person you are with isn’t perfect, but with all the flaws and all the differences you have you know deep down that this person is for you, that He or She is your kind of Perfect? I grew up and realized that no one is perfect, but that is what makes us all unique, and in the end there is always that one person who fits perfectly together with you. This was dedicated to my boyfriend…

You’re my kind of Perfect

When I found you I didn’t know you would be the one
When you found me we were just having fun
Then out of nowhere we fell in love.

I never thought you were perfect but to me you shine that light
When I’m in the dark you make everything alright.
When we kissed I felt the summer breeze.
When our eyes met I knew deep down that now I can finally breathe.

When I met you I was lost,
I didn’t think love really existed,
But I opened up my heart to you,
I let you see the me no one sees,
And when you looked at me I knew
I had to let you in my world,
Because without you, I just wouldn’t be me.

Through the years you’ve been my strength
My best friend through it all
And even though we aren’t perfect
You’re my kind of Perfect
You’re my kind of Love…

xo,
kristin nicole

© Written By: kristin nicole June 2, 2011 Edited: March 2,2012

Life doesn’t have a Guide Book…

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Random Thoughts:

Pain is something we all feel at one point in our lives. When you hurt inside it’s a pain that is unexplainable, a pain that blinds us from what is really in front of us. Sometimes when we hurt we eventually move forward, we eventually see that the pain was for a reason, other times the pain turns into anger. Life is a journey that we are all on together, a journey we have to figure out on our own. We cross paths with people in our lives that change who we are, we either grow from them or we stay stuck in the paths we are crossing. I believe that we meet people in our lives for a reason, we might not see it in the moment, but they are there for one reason or another.

Sometimes we feel lost, and confused and we aren’t quiet sure where to go from there. I knew someone who was lost, this person forgot who they were, they weren’t happy with themselves or their life and they pushed everyone they knew away. Closing one door leading them into a depression I couldn’t get them out of. When someone tells you that they don’t love you anymore, you try to come up with reasons why they loved you to begin with, when a person stops loving themselves the only thing you can do is let them find their own way back. How do you help someone who doesn’t want to be helped? There is no guide book in life to tell us how to act, what to do, where to go, there is no help guide to tell us how to love or what to do when we feel sad or upset. We live this life for a reason and we try to figure it out along the way.

At times I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. I have a vision of what I want to do, but fear holds me back at times, wondering if what I really want will ever truly happen, if I’m good enough for what seems to be the impossible. I try to think positive and I love to feel like anything is possible, but there is always that little negative voice inside who stops us from making our dreams come true. Why do people always second guess themselves, why do we feel like there are some things in life that just can’t happen?

My friend gave me this quote from Steve Jobs which I find to be refreshing, I have it up on my board at work so that I can see it and remind myself of the possibilities life has to bring.

“You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of our life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle. ~Steve Jobs (2005 Stanford Commencement Speech).

xo,
kristin nicole

My friend is always critical of me, should I stay friends with her?

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The Question:

I have a friend who recently went through a divorce and is a single mom now. I met her while she was going through the divorce. I have noticed that she always makes mean comments towards me even though I am always nice to her. For instance, she was going through my closet and says you are a lawyer why do you buy cheap clothes or you aren’t detail oriented at all..are you sure you are a lawyer? The list goes on…she makes these snide comments when I least expect it and it really irritates the hell out of me. I am just friends with her out of pity. I don’t initiate contact with her and I don’t try to be friends with her..she always tries to run after me. She can be a good person but her critical remarks shows that something is mentally wrong with her. What should I do? Should I cut the crazy off?

My response:

Dear taking criticism;

It seems to me that although you say you are friends with her out of pity only, you are the one that initiated the friendship and therefor it also seems she isn’t the one who’s going to end it. Just because she was going through a rough divorce gives her no right to criticize but people who are going through tough times and aren’t happy with their own lives tend to criticize the ones they envy. Unfortunately you didn’t stand up to her the first time she started criticizing you and that was your first mistake. You can do two things, you can either step up to her the next time she tries putting you down, just tell her that you don’t appreciate her criticizing the way you live your life or the way you do things and that you are happy with the way your life is; or you can drop her as a friend. Seems to me that she isn’t such a good friend to begin with and you should never be-friend someone just because you feel sorry for them, you should be friends with someone because that person is a friend back to you. My opinion, drop her, she doesn’t seem like a good friend and she needs a lot of growing up to do. There was probably a reason she got divorced to begin with. Move on and find some real friends to hang out with.

xo,
kristin nicole

I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

Please comment…

Everything Happens for a Reason…

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Everything happens for a Reason….

Sometimes we don’t understand that the things that are happening to us in the moment are reasons we will one day hope to understand. Sometimes we fight for something that just isn’t meant to be. I used to believe in fairy-tales and happily ever afters but after a while you stop believing. You start to wonder if any of it is even true, and if it’s even possible.

I pictured my life a certain way and when god had other plans I realized that I can’t control fate or life, I can only try to control how I feel about it and I can only control what I will do next to make it better.

In life I have come to learn a lot at my age. I have gone through more then most and yet so little compared to others. You can never compare what you have gone through in life to what someone else has gone through, because although you may think that what you have gone through wasn’t easy, and I’m sure it wasn’t, what the other person may have gone through could have been worse or just simply another situation that was just as hard. I couldn’t imagine going through the things that I know some have gone through, and I don’t judge but I look at them with honor, and grace in knowing how strong some people can be, how strong some can overcome the odds and become good people.

There are still things that happen that I have no explanation for, and sometimes I just want to help those who won’t let me in. I feel bad and I feel like I’m pushed against a wall with no where to turn. If that person knew how much I loved them and cared for them they would know that at any time they could come to me, and at any time I would always be there for them. Although I was just like this person I knew when it was time to need someone I always had my mom I could count on. Sometimes we need to put our pride away and open up to the people around us that love us and care for us, because in the end they are the ones that will always be there for us.

Everything happens for a reason, and although I don’t have the answers one day you will see and understand why it happened. I used to believe in fairy-tales and happily ever afters and although I gave up on that, I still have hope inside that one day I will have my fairy-tale and one day I will have my happily ever after, because everything happens for a reason.

xo,
kristin nicole

My boss friend requested me on FB?..

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The Question:

Would you find it strange if your male boss made a friend request to you on Facebook? If you were working there for a week only…
He’s not exactly the friendliest guy either…he’s okay but a little nerdy lol

I kind of feel like I have no other choice but to except because it’s a good job and I don’t want him to hate me for not accepting him… What should I do?
(Revised – KN)

My Response:

Dear Friend Request;

I do find it a little strange considering he is your boss and you have only been working there a week. If you don’t want to deny him the friendship request I would add him to a list that you can create under your Privacy Settings. You can manage what some can see and what others can’t see. For example; you can add him to the privacy setting where he cannot see any of your personal information or any of your pictures, and he can only see your wall. If he asks, just tell him you do not have any pictures up and that you barely log onto Facebook. Create your Privacy Settings before requesting him, and if he asks you if you got his friend request tell him you barely log on, so you haven’t seen it. (This way he doesn’t think you are ignoring his friend request), but don’t bring it up so that it makes it look like you really haven’t seen the request, don’t mention it unless he does first…

I don’t think management should request Facebook friendships, I think it can be awkward and or snooping on their part. If it’s too much just take Facebook off for a while, but I do not think it is necessary if you add him to a privacy list.

Good luck

xo,
kristin nicole

I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

My Best Friend…

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My Best Friend

We have known each other for way too long
You aren’t just my best friend
You are like a sister at all costs.

We have been through ups and downs
at one point we didn’t talk
life moved on
and then one day out of no where
you came back into my life
it was has if we never stopped talking
as if we had never been apart
that’s how you truly know this friendship will never part.

You mean the world to me
everything you do
I know if I need you
You’ll help me through

If you’re ever in a bind
I hope you know I’ll do the same
No matter what time or day
I’ll always be here
Just call out my name…

I know it sounds corny
but the saying is true
Friends for Ever
Just Me & YOU!

© ~Written by: kristin nicole – March 16, 2011

xo,
kristin nicole

Dedicated to my best friend Grace – I have known her for over 15 years now and she is like a sister to me in so many ways. I was inspired to write this poem after she wrote me a sweet message on my facebook page. She just got married, and I was so lucky to have been chosen as her Maid of Honor…. It is truly a blessing when you find a true friend for life… Love you….

Get Your Own Friend

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Get your own Friends

Get your own friends
why do you have to seek out mine?
are you not over it?
give up your pride…

Tell me a story
the one that fell apart
the one that left you
and died out your heart

Get your own friends
leave mine alone
is it not enough that it ended,
that you keep lurking around my door?

Time is of essence
we all have to move on
leave it alone now
leave it be
leave, leave, leave…

Get out of my mind
out my head
leaving was the best thing
if not I’d be dead

Get your own friends
just leave mine alone
find a new hobby
find a new friend
just stop trying to steal mine instead…

© ~written by: kristin nicole – March 2011

This was inspired by a dream a friend told me about. She stopped being friends with her child hood friend and she started hanging out with her friends and taking them from her, she just wanted to move on from their friendship, but every time she turned around, she was there. Hope you enjoyed the poem.

xo,
kristin nicole

Happy Valentine’s Day

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Another year gone by, and another Valentine’s is here. Not everyone is blessed to be in a relationship. Valentine’s day is said to bring a lot of depression and suicide rates up. People need to realize that Valentine’s day is just a holiday invented by people to celebrate your love, but you shouldn’t just celebrate it one day out of the year, you should celebrate your love 365 days out of the year. Okay well not exactly celebrate since you can’t buy gifts and go out to dinner every single day of the year, but you can celebrate it by loving each other, respecting each other, making memories that will last a life time.

If you are couple go out, be romantic but don’t just do this special thing on Valentine’s day, go all out on a regular day, I think it would mean so much more than just because it’s Valentine’s Day. Don’t get me wrong, flowers and a gift is nice on Valentine’s day too…

For those who don’t have someone to celebrate Valentine’s day with, why not go out with a friend, have some drinks, watch a movie. If you feel sad don’t fret, there is always next year.

Happy Valentine’s All – hope you have a wonderful day!

Here’s a poem I found:

It’s More Than Saying I Love You

We give on this day candy and flowers,
But we never stop to say thank you for the many hours.
You have stood by my side and gave a smile,
As if to tell our hearts it’s been worth every mile.
No need to buy a teddy bear or even a card,
It’s pretty simple and not at all hard.
Just put your arms around me and hold me tight,
And say without words that in your heart all is right.
You may say I Love You throughout the year,
But on this day you need to make sure.
The words so sweet and straight from your heart,
That your life would be lonely without my part.
So put forth the effort and take the time,
Look me in the eye and say I’m glad you’re mine.
~By Marai

xo,
kristin nicole

~Happy Valentine’s Day~

The ‘SEX’ Talk…

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The Question:

Imagine that you are a parent and you find out your teenager is sexually active. How might you handle this situation? Would you prefer to know or not know?

My Response:

If I were a parent and found out my teenager was sexually active I would first take a breather, contain my thoughts and find a way to bring up the subject with out lashing out or pushing the teenager away. Teenagers are very sensitive and they tend to get shy around the subject of sex, especially with a parent. I would start talking to them at a young age so that I did not need to find out my teenager is having sex after the fact. I would be honest with them and I would tell them the consequences and actions sex has between a man a women, and I would ask them that when they were ready to have sexual intercourse to come to me and we would talk about protection. If I found out after the fact, I prefer to know about it so that I can talk to them and either buy my son condoms and talk to him about it, or if it was a girl, get her on birth control pills and also talk with her, because birth control pills only prevents pregnancy not sexually transmitted diseases, it is important to talk about all aspects of sex.

In today’s society we forget that teenagers learn a lot at a young age, not only in school but in the media, blogs, magazines and more, but are they learning the right things? We need to be open about sex, it’s natural and there is nothing to be scared of, but if you rush into things and you aren’t careful, your life can change forever.

xo,
kristin nicole

~I got this question from my Human Sexuality Course I’m currently taking~

Love to hear your thoughts. xo

Life’s speed bumps

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Life’s Speed Bumps

In life we get some speed bumps that we can race through with just a little bump on the head and sometimes in life there are speed bumps that you have to slow down with, take your time and go over it, watching things pass by and watching the people you don’t even know race on beside you. Unfortunately life doesn’t have a sign that warns you about a speed bump like the sign above, in life we just come to a slow bump where we know; this is it….this is my speed bump in life…

Where are we going?

At my age you start to think about the future. What’s next, where am I going, what do I WANT in life? I’m not a teenager, I’m not in my early 20′s but I’m not old either, I’m just in between trying to find my way. Sure I have some regrets in life; like most we try not to regret, I try not to because we can’t change the past we can only change the future. (Okay, okay I know I sound like a commercial); but it’s true. I don’t regret many things in life, even the worst parts of my life I don’t regret, because it taught me lessons and it made me grow into who I am today. (Which isn’t so bad if I say so myself). The one thing I wish I had more ambition for, the one thing I wish I would have just finished was (if you guessed it) yes School. I’m still moving forward towards my bachelors and I have a long way to go, sometimes I am not even sure what I’ll finish studying, but I wish I had done it when I was younger, I wish I had finished and I would be doing it right now instead of struggling, working full time and going to school. Some people don’t know how tough it is, and some well I can’t complain, I have no kids and some people are full time workers, and full time parents and still manage to go to school and finish. I give 100% respect for those people, because I just don’t know where they find the time and energy to keep going.

My thoughts:

Like you haven’t been already hearing them; well my thoughts on this – move forward and keep on pushing. Sure I complain sometimes, and I get stressed and I wish like hell I had finished school or would just finish already because it’s so hard, but I keep going, I keep moving forward and I give thanks for all the things I do have that others don’t. Life gives you speed bumps, some you can go fast and some you just have to slow down, have patience and move forward. This is my speed bump, this is my journey and one way or the other I’m going over this speed bump. I’ll get to where I want to be and maybe one day you’ll actually see an article about me in a magazine
:)

Until next time…

xo,
kristin nicole